“Relationships Without A Commitment?”

More than 30 years ago, I met someone who peaked my interests because of our likes for so many of the same things.  We found that we enjoyed the same music, books, foods, movies, and remote destinations for travel!  We soon realized that there was a basis for a relationship. RELATIONSHIP’S always come FIRST!  You can’t have a partnership without FIRST having a RELATIONSHIP!  Our relationship developed into one that is very trusting & loving!

There is still part of the population who understand what relationship/partnership mean, but are AFRAID of the “C” word!

Where the “Rubber Meets the Road” is when our maturity kicks in to say, “I’m ready for a COMMITMENT!” A relationship/partnership without COMMITMENT is like building a house without windows or a kitchen!  Most people agree that the kitchen is the heart of the house!  Many discussions and decisions have been reached while sitting around the kitchen table!   After meaningful discussions and all things have been decided, we walk into the living room to look out of all the windows at the beautiful view!

Life is too short!  People are leaving here in droves! Sadly, many of them never knew the joy of a “Committed Relationship!”   I think it was Tennyson who said, “It is better to have loved and lost then to never have loved loved at all!”

We’re human!  Our emotions will ALWAYS be involved when you trust your heart to someone else!!  But building a relationship without a COMMITMENT is like doing the “THELMA & LOUISE!”  They trusted each other, had fun doing things they both enjoyed, filled up their car with gas and while traveling at nearly 100 miles per hour, drove off a huge cliff at the Grand Canyon!!! Their car sailed through the air for several seconds before hitting the  ground more than 3 miles down!  For me?  I want a “COMMITTED Relationship with all the bells and whistles!”  You only go this way ONCE!  I want everything God said in His word I can have!

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“Moving Far Away from Home… My Michigan!”

Thought I’d repost my blog after I added the photo of my adorable husband and me.  He’s so precious to me and to so many, many others we’ve been blessed to meet down through the years. I know they’ll love this picture as much as I do!

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My adoring husband and I are getting ready to celebrate two years in our new home and State of South Carolina!  As I reflect on the most challenging thing we’ve undertaken in our 30+ years of marriage, I’m rather sentimental about moving so far away from home and ‘My Michigan!’

It seemed like an exciting adventure to be packing up to go someplace we weren’t familiar with.  Now that I look back on it,  I can say that it was definitely a VERY adolescent idea to leave all that was familiar which included my excellent doctor’s and familiar health care options!  For several months I’d sit quietly asking myself “What were we thinking?”

This last 2 years has been ‘One for the Books!’  The move here was HUGE and much bigger than we had anticipated!  Doctor’s visits, eye surgery, ruptured discs, new onset of Asthma, and settling-in really took a…

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What’s a Dad to Do?

A relative of mine recently posted a personal comment about an annoying incident she witnessed at a local retailer.  As she was going into a stall in the ladies bathroom, all of a sudden a ‘man’ was exiting the stall right next to her with two little girls.  My relative, aside from being stunned, was very annoyed and stated, “This was the 3rd time she’d encountered men (with their own reasons as to why they were there) with their young children!” When I shared my response she had to agree, “What’s a Dad to Do” when faced with the same kind of dilemma???  My “open response  to her has been added for clarity!”

Hello Cousin,

Can I share with you that Dad’s have been shopping with their young “can’t go to the bathroom by themselves daughters” and have always gone into the ladies bathroom, hurried into a stall, stopped for handwashing, and then hurried out the same way! What’s a Dad to do if his daughter’s need to “Use it” but Mommy or Grandma aren’t around? Based on statistics, Dad is very correct to TAKE his girls rather than stand outside the door “hoping” nobody will accost or molest them! YEARS ago, a man might ask another female if they could assist his daughter but given all of the hype about the new BATHROOM LAWS in North Carolina, and possible weird people waiting on the inside of every bathroom in America, it’s created a new and challenging FEAR and awareness about “Using the Facilities” ANYWHERE which is something everybody has ALWAYS taken for granted!    So, as uncomfortable & annoying this entire “Political Football” has made all of us, What’s a Dad to Do?  The ladies bathroom is right there and he wants to protect his Daughters!  Again, What’s a Dad to Do?

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“Moving Far Away from Home… My Michigan!”

My adoring husband and I are getting ready to celebrate two years in our new home and State of South Carolina!  As I reflect on the most challenging thing we’ve undertaken in our 30+ years of marriage, I’m rather sentimental about moving so far away from home and ‘My Michigan!’

It seemed like an exciting adventure to be packing up to go someplace we weren’t familiar with.  Now that I look back on it,  I can say that it was definitely a VERY adolescent idea to leave all that was familiar which included my excellent doctor’s and familiar health care options!  For several months I’d sit quietly asking myself “What were we thinking?”

This last 2 years has been ‘One for the Books!’  The move here was HUGE and much bigger than we had anticipated!  Doctor’s visits, eye surgery, ruptured discs, new onset of Asthma, and settling-in really took a drastic toll!  Not to mention missing our very dear friends, my family, grandsons, my adorable son, my beautiful Sister and my Mom… 😢  It’s been rough!

So, I had to put on my “big girl panties” and get used to my new surroundings! Rev’s family here is very sweet, loving, nurturing and inclusive. They’re very active on national, regional, State,  and community levels – socially, politically, and philanthropically.  And they’ve done their level best to ensure that we became very ‘connected’ when we arrived.  I’ll always love them for that!!  But, I still think if we were going to move, we should’ve done it 15 years ago! Seniors do well being in familiar surroundings. We moved for two reasons: Better weather, and to enjoy retirement.   Rev. has taken on the responsibility of a part-time Pastorate so my dreams of weekends in Myrtle Beach and Hilton Head flew away a long time ago!  I’ve been a Pastor’s Wife for 30+ years… It too was like a 2nd career! When we married I had no idea what I was in store for! Especially when he Pastored in Canada! It was one of the greatest experiences in my life!

To sum all of this up, as a 74 year old, I’m thankful to still have my wits about me, have a reasonable portion of good health, VERY loving friends and family here in South Carolina, including friends and precious family back home, in Canada, Boston, California, Texas, Australia, New Zealand, Kenya, as well as other places around the globe!  Like my sweet Cousin Renae Hillman-Gordon, I’ve chosen to look at the Roses in life instead of the thorns!  My husband has been everything imaginable to me and for me including caregiver, Pastor, Angel of our home, confidanté, and best friend!

As we both face this new chapter in our lives,  we do so with the assurances that God will never leave us or forsake us!  “All [is] Quiet on the Southern Front!”  Our love and companionship has faced many ‘Valley experiences’ but we’ve always been there for each other!  As difficult and uncertain as these times are in the world, we hold on to the fact that God says, “In the end we win!”

“It’s a Wonderful Life!”

Probably sounds unusual that I’m a 73 year old woman of colour, a Pastor’s wife, devoted Mom, Grandma and HARD ROCK ‘n ROLLER who’s seen every Rock group from Aerosmith to Led Zeppelin, and regretting that I never saw “Alice in Chains” so that I could have possibly saved Layne Stayley’s life! My 3 adult children all have advanced degrees and one has a Doctorate. In the 60’s I marched with every Civil Rights & anti-war group I could! “Make Love, NOT War!” That was my mantra!   In 1963 I was blessed and privileged to attend the “March on Washington” where Dr. Martin Luther King gave his iconic “I Have a Dream” speech!  Little did I know how important and history-making that day or the speech would become!!  As a 20 year old visiting my relatives and cousins in DC, my thoughts and my interests were far away from the reason so many people were at the march and ‘crying’ as well!  Never dawned on me until several years later how significant and historical this day would become to millions of people all around the world!

My husband and I retired and moved AWAY from Michigan a few months ago to the Upstate in South Carolina! What a wonderful life it has been for this Septugenarian!                       😎